We all aspire to live meaningful, productive lives, yet so many of us struggle to get there. We feel fatigued, frustrated or fearful. We’re hemmed in by our basic beliefs about who we are and what we are capable of.
For many of us, relationships are the main arena for our frustrations. We know that to achieve anything substantial in this world, we need to work with and through others. Yet it often feels like an uphill battle.
We realise we need support.
Why we exist
Reflecting Power exists to help you release what you’re truly capable of and succeed at what’s important to you. To do that, we:
Accelerate learning across your team
Increase your ability to face struggles confidently
Harness your ability to bring your full personal resources to whatever challenges you face.
Ultimately, we exist to help your organisation succeed and your team “work.”
And for the world to be a better place because if it.
Who we work with
We are experts in personal growth, collaboration and cooperation for:
and motivated individuals
We work across sectors, but have particular interest in working with:
Technical specialists in any field
Through workshops or one-on-one coaching, we help you discover new ways of being that are more resilient, resourceful and effective.
Benefits for your team
Increase your team’s capacity to get more done
Achieve lasting cultural change
Having training results stick and be implemented in practice
Enhance ability to learn
Solve seemingly intractable problems
Build quality relationships and resolve conflict
Develop key management skills
Holding people to account
Increasing creativity and innovation
Benefits for you as a manager and leader
See opportunities you were missing
Build or repair workplace relationships
Be more effective in getting stuff done and producing business results
Share feedback frankly and constructively
Be more creative and inventive
Have your team understand what is expected of them, and deliver to standard
Take care of the people around you while producing outstanding results
In all our coaching and training, we go beyond the mechanics of human interactions, or tactical leadership.
Our approach is grounded in the school of ontological coaching, and works on the three domains of human existence:
How you speak, how you listen, and how you think. With awareness and practice, you can change how you see yourself and the world through choosing changes in language.
2. Moods and emotions
Moods profoundly shape our experience of the world, what choices are possible, and how effective our actions are likely to be. Are you or your team downcast and in survival mode, or you agile, open to possibilities and at your most resourceful to be effective?
3. The body
Research shows that the way we walk, breathe and hold our bodies has a powerful influence on our moods and emotions as well as how others experience us. Shifting our physiology or posture is one of the most rapid and effective ways to shift our mood and be more influential with others.
These three domains are intertwined
You cannot change one without impacting others. Our goal is to help you make empowered, educated choices about which way of being will best serve you in the circumstances that you face.
Who we are
Reflecting Power is me, Ian Higginbottom and a network of experienced coaches and trainers.
I know the powerful impact that ontological coaching can bring, because I’ve experienced it in my own life.
As an entrepreneur, I’ve launched and managed companies that are today worth millions of dollars by taking actions that I (previously) did not think possible.
As a manager, I’ve taught and mentored staff to reach levels of performance they did not think were possible.
As a father, I have a beautiful and amazing 25 year-old daughter, who in 2016 is about to make me a grandfather – and with whom I have a relationship of a quality that has me deeply grateful.
The real story
The truth is that none of these achievements were possible without first working on myself.
I needed to face up to some of my most basic beliefs about who I was, and what I was capable of.
Through coaching and working hard on myself, I achieved far more than what I or anyone else would have predicted. I learned to change parts of myself that I thought were set in stone.
As an entrepreneur, I had succeeded so far on technical ability alone.
I began my career as a scientist with the Australian Antarctic Division, moving into software development. I was very comfortable analysing data, or designing the technical specifications of a clever algorithm. But standing up and delivering a talk to inspire my team… that was something ‘other’ people did.
I was astounded when I discovered that I had a choice. Through coaching, I learned that I could choose to be afraid, and stay silent, or contribute to others by sharing what I knew.
I started to speak publicly. I designed a training course that I delivered around the world. I was still afraid, but I didn’t let that stop me. Soon I was speaking to audiences of hundreds and our software sales took off.
This made me wonder: “If I can learn to speak publicly when I had thought I was genetically programmed not to, what else is it possible for me to change? Is there any part of my identity that really is fixed?
As a manager, I had to confront my lack of self-confidence, especially when it came to managing performance.
In one situation, it became clear that an admin team member wasn’t performing. But I was too afraid to address this with them. I promised my colleagues and myself that I would address the situation, yet then did nothing.
Being indecisive undermined my standing with my colleagues. It reduced productivity and damaged our relationship with some clients.
Here too, I realised I had a choice: to make a contribution, or remain on the sidelines. So I organised a meeting with the team member, outlined expectations and agreed on a plan with them.
When the situation didn’t improve, I terminated their employment. Crucially, though, I did it in such a way that they left, feeling good about themselves. I know this because they felt comfortable enough to come back to the office for morning tea for the next 6 weeks and were soon employed by another company in a role they were better suited for.
As a father, I had to stop and pay attention.
I noticed that my daughter often said, ‘Dad, you’re not listening.’ I was making attentive-seeming nods and sounds while thinking about business strategies. She was 12 at the time.
I realised that if I stayed on this course, she’d stop sharing her experiences with me. As she became a teenager, we would drift a part.
I found the courage to admit to her that she was right. I apologised for not listening, and let her know that I didn’t want to lose our connection. I committed to being fully present.
This was a turning point in our relationship. We grew closer and shared a few truly enjoyable years of her being a teenager. Now, 13 years later, she still occasionally says, “Dad you’re not listening,” and we laugh and I bring myself back to being fully present.
The professional is personal
Learning to be present with my daughter also marked a turning point in my sales and business success.
I discovered I could be fully present and deeply listen to the concerns of my staff, prospects and clients. It amazed me how many more sales I could make when clients felt that I really did understand their needs.
Through years of training, reflection and growth, I’ve learned that it is possible to learn how to shift our most fundamental way of being. Some of us can get there on our own. Others of us need help to get there.
We can all learn to notice our way of being, and to change it as our circumstances change. When we shift our being, we shift the actions that it is possible for us to take and the results that we can achieve.
My mission, and the mission of my team of associates at Reflecting Power, is now to help motivated individuals, teams and organisations learn how to change their being and discover and indeed, unleash, what they are truly capable of.